Yes. When he does something you tell him to do make sure to praise him.
When he does something you didn't ask him to do, be firm and make sure he knows that's not good. Don't shame him, just remind him that he must listen to you.
Now, I've found denying him what he wants is the best way to get him to apologize for any transgressions and mistakes. He'll apologize very quickly then.
Now, the real important part will be after your done with sex.
He will be a little out of sorts. Don't leave him unless absolutely necessary. Stay close, reassure him, and help him back to his right mind. Even being gentle in control can have a profound effect.
Never choke him. He panics very hard if you do. I haven't done it, but someone else did to him. It's bad.
I have all sorts of pet names I give him. Depending on his mood he sometimes likes to be called whore and slut. I prefer praise but he enjoys those names.
And make sure you get his safeword. Something he'll say if he needs everything to stop.
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Oh! Okay. Um, and he'll...he'll do it?
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When he does something you didn't ask him to do, be firm and make sure he knows that's not good. Don't shame him, just remind him that he must listen to you.
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just remind him that he wants to be a good boy.
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Now, I've found denying him what he wants is the best way to get him to apologize for any transgressions and mistakes. He'll apologize very quickly then.
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like, not touching him?
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oh, yeah, he likes that.
[it's a good thing that this is text and he can't see how much she's blushing]
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yeah. he is.
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He will be a little out of sorts. Don't leave him unless absolutely necessary. Stay close, reassure him, and help him back to his right mind. Even being gentle in control can have a profound effect.
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okay, got it. I'm very good at not leaving. is there anything else? any pet names he likes or stuff I should avoid or anything?
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I have all sorts of pet names I give him. Depending on his mood he sometimes likes to be called whore and slut. I prefer praise but he enjoys those names.
And make sure you get his safeword. Something he'll say if he needs everything to stop.
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I don't think I could...
I could try.
okay, safe word, got it.
does it make you nervous? doing it?
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No, not really. I'm sort of a dominate personality anyway. I treasure the trust he puts in me to do this sort of thing.
Because it is quite the sign of trust.
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you are much more naturally dominant than me.
[it's something that she feels drawn in by, on many levels]
but! I wanna do it.
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You are nature. Your are the start and end of all things. When civilization crumbles you will reclaim it. Nothing can stop you.
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yeah! yeah. i am. i am. nothing can stop me.
thank you, shaun.
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